Dear Black Woman from S. Cassadera

Dear Black Woman,

It’s okay to grieve for your loss. It’s okay not to be okay but only for a little while. I say that with love because I know we get mad at the world over circumstances we can’t control. It’s okay. Breathe. Cry your eyes out. Scream. Fall back. Read a book or two. Do you, but only grieve for a little while because you have to go on. If you have kids, do it for them. They see when you’re hurting or feeling sad. At least my little girl does and she comforts me with a hug and kind words. Even after nine years, I still grieve for my mother. It comes and goes out of nowhere. A song I've heard can trigger a memory of her in those moments. The way she called my name resonates in my mind. A common saying that I'd learn and repeat to my children, and last but not least, the prayer line she established for those in need.

Realizing after all, I am my mother’s child whether by what I say or how I say it. Black woman, it’s okay to not be okay at times. Grieve for a day or two, but know joy comes afterwards. Even if you have to treat yourself. Go for a walk to clear your mind. Listen to good music to cleanse your soul. I heard shopping helps beat depression. Take yourself out on a date or visit positive vibes, friends or family. Sometimes that grief is a job. Sometimes a spouse/significant other. You can survive without the distraction. Sometimes it’s a blessing in disguise. Other times it’s a loss.

Dear Black Woman,

It’s okay to grieve and not be okay. It takes time to heal which could be days, months, or years to recover from the pain. It starts with wanting to do for You, Prayer, and a relationship with God, surrounded by spiritual guidance. Love yourself and all will follow you through this journey. For you are not alone in this battle.

Dear Black Woman! It’s okay to grieve for your loss but get up. Dust yourself

off, Thank God, and keep it moving!

With Love,

S. Cassadera